I owe a t-shirt tag to maia-arts and pottybaglady but I have to admit, today has been very hard. A dear friend of mine has spent all day in hospital beside her dying husband. I've been sitting at home, waiting by my computer, as she sends us periodical updates... on her... on the children... and of course... on her husband.
I am not worried for him. His has been a long illness. I will miss him, though and I feel a great deal of compassion for him at this time because he, truly, is not ready to go. He has fought and struggled and lived long past the time the doctors gave for him. I believe he has only stayed with us this long because he does not accept it is his time and goes unwillingly onto the next stage of his journey. I call it that because I do believe there is something larger, beyond this life, as we know it. I am also firmly convinced he will be absolutely fine, even if he does go into the next life screaming, just as a baby comes into this one, unknowing and screaming.
My sadness comes because I know my friends. They were at my wedding. She was pregnant when I was pregnant. They came to the funeral of my eldest child. Our friendship spans decades. They've shared a great deal of my life and I, theirs.
I know that he is the love of her life. Marriage is not always easy and they've had their ups and downs. There were times when it looked as though theirs would not survive... but through it all, they had a passion and somehow, they worked things out.
When you have friends as good as these, you get the privilege of sharing lives, the good and the bad. Right now, I wait by the phone and the computer, sadly taking this ride with them. It is sad but as I said, it is a privilege.
There is a wonderful quote by John Donne. I put it here in the hope that it might comfort others as it comforts me...
"No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend's or of thine own were. Any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee."
Goodnight polyfriends. I'll be away a while but I'll be back. Take care of yourselves.
I am not worried for him. His has been a long illness. I will miss him, though and I feel a great deal of compassion for him at this time because he, truly, is not ready to go. He has fought and struggled and lived long past the time the doctors gave for him. I believe he has only stayed with us this long because he does not accept it is his time and goes unwillingly onto the next stage of his journey. I call it that because I do believe there is something larger, beyond this life, as we know it. I am also firmly convinced he will be absolutely fine, even if he does go into the next life screaming, just as a baby comes into this one, unknowing and screaming.
My sadness comes because I know my friends. They were at my wedding. She was pregnant when I was pregnant. They came to the funeral of my eldest child. Our friendship spans decades. They've shared a great deal of my life and I, theirs.
I know that he is the love of her life. Marriage is not always easy and they've had their ups and downs. There were times when it looked as though theirs would not survive... but through it all, they had a passion and somehow, they worked things out.
When you have friends as good as these, you get the privilege of sharing lives, the good and the bad. Right now, I wait by the phone and the computer, sadly taking this ride with them. It is sad but as I said, it is a privilege.
There is a wonderful quote by John Donne. I put it here in the hope that it might comfort others as it comforts me...
"No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend's or of thine own were. Any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee."
Goodnight polyfriends. I'll be away a while but I'll be back. Take care of yourselves.
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